Myopia creeps up on you until one day, you realize you’re squinting at the blackboard just to read the assignment. But because squinting solves your problem, you don’t even think to say anything about it to your parents. They usually have to notice you squinting at something else unless an observant teacher alerts them first.
And you end up with glasses. They make your eyesight great again, but now you have to remember to wear them. You have to make a new habit. I’ve done it. It was hard at first, but the improvement those glasses made to the quality of my life was so great, it wasn’t long before putting them on was a no-brainer.
Living kindly is like that. You have to see the world through a kindness lens, but that doesn’t mean you have to see the world through Rose Colored Glasses.
No, but you do have to filter your judgment through courtesy, compassion, and consideration. All three filters combine in the Universal Golden Rule. To help you remember to use them, it reflects an image of you, seen through other people’s filters.
The Golden Rule isn’t just for rosy occasions. In fact, it’s most important when reality’s thorns are most prickly and the world’s colors most harsh. If you can treat people who irritate you, annoy you, or get your dander up with courtesy, compassion, and consideration, you’ll be seeing through a kindness lens. They might still irritate, annoy, or scratch at your last nerve, but you’ll see them as human beings who deserve the same treatment you do when you irritate, annoy, or test someone’s temper.
“Moi?” You and Miss Piggy.
“Oui.” The rest of the world and Kermit.
And you will be able to treat them kindly.
So make it a habit to wear your Golden Rule Glasses with the kindness lenses. The world might not always be pretty, but what you bring to it will be beautiful. And that reflects well on you.